Guilt & Shame p.1

March 2, 2014 No Comments by mdoyle

in-praise-of-shameJohn 8:36 KJV

If the Son therefore shall make you free , ye shall be free indeed.

I read the works of an author by the name of Peter Frost who had a head on definition for guilt and shame and I’d like to share it with you.  The difference between shame and guilt:

Shame is the primary means of behavioral control in most societies. If you are seen breaking a social rule, you will feel shame, and this feeling will be reinforced by what people say and do (gossiping, malicious looks, spitting, ostracism, etc.). Shame is much less effective if you break a rule without being seen or if you merely think about breaking a rule.  Guilt operates even when you act alone or merely think about breaking a rule. Behavior can thus be regulated in all possible situations with a minimum of surveillance.

I am convinced that on elf the primary reasons for the beloved of God that leave in seemingly defeated lives is because of guilt.  Guilt ranks high in the pecking order of Killjoys for the Believer.

Three guilt by-products:

1. The feeling of Filthiness

2. Worthlessness

3. Robs us of our Faith

Beloved the very 1st step in moving outside the doom of guilt and shame is to hear the good news that by the blood of Jesus we are free!

John 8:36 

If the Son therefore shall make you free , ye shall be free indeed.

Freed from the guilt of your past and also the attitude of forgiveness for your future.

1 Timothy 3:9

Holding the mystery of the faith in a pure conscience.

I have identified two kinds of guilt.

1. Godly sorrow (which leads to salvation through repentance)

2 Cor 7:10

For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.       

This now lead to repentance, also identified as conviction via the consciousness of The from the Holy Spirit.

John 16:8  

And when he is come , he will reprove the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment:  


8 “When he comes, he’ll expose the error of the godless world’s view of sin, righteousness, and judgment:

After repentance, guilt has no place. There should be three new full time residents:

1. Relief

2. Joy

3. Freedom

Let’s talk a little about the second type of Guilt.  Type 2 guilt is much worse than type 2 diabetes

2. Condemnation.

The enemy has a three fold purpose in EVERY Believers life, Steal Kill Destroy.

John 10:10 

The thief cometh not, but for to steal , and to kill , and to destroy : I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.

Satan (our enemy) loves to torment God’s people by constantly stirring up their past. It hinders healthy relationships from forming.  Condemnation becomes and ever present nightmare of past regrets without regard to the blame holder! Condemnation isn’t concerned about who was at fault in your failed relationships. It’s purpose is to never let you forget the intensity of the burn! An eager participant in helping us to regurgitate our past, leaving us with shameful feeling that cause one to fell equal to the dog returning unto it’s own vomit.  This is condemnation and there is no good that comes out of it whatsoever. It tears us down, and robs of us of our faith and confidence in Christ Jesus.  It’s a lie from the father of lies, and it must be ignored.  Let me introduce you to a very helpful friend that us earthen vessels that try to live Holy are very familiar with.  You will need him if you intend to stay focused in this walk!  It’s called Holy Ghost Conviction.

Look at:

John 14: 26

But the Comforter, who is the Holy Ghost whom the Father will send in My name, He shall teach you all things and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you.

Holy Spirit Conviction comes solely as a reminder not as a condemner.  He plays the role of leader and guide.  Guilt is a door to the enemy.  Guilt opens doors to be tormented by evil spirits. False guilt is actually a symptom of unforgiveness in your heart that is directed at yourself.

Look at:

Hebrews 12:15

15 Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;

In Matthew 18:23-35, Jesus tells us how important it is to forgive those who have wronged us, and how we can be turned over to the tormenters (evil spirits) if we are unforgiving.  Colossians 3:13 tells us to be, “…forgiving one another…” The phrase ‘one another’ in NT Greek translates to the word Heautou, which includes THEMSELF! Bitterness, regardless who or what it’s about, defiles a man (Hebrews 12:15). Spiritual defilement is what makes a person open to unclean spirits. It is very possible for a person to be harassed by evil spirits or come under their power, just because a person has refused to forgive them self.

How guilt is cultivated and nurtured?  Guilt is cultivated when you continually allow yourself to dwell and think about how badly you’ve messed up, your pasts, the sins you’ve committed, etc. The enemy loves to remind us of our past failures, so he can keep us thinking about them.   The problem is, if we allow ourselves to fall for this trap, it allows the enemy to build what they call a stronghold in our minds.

We’ll be talking next time about the stronghold of Guilt and how to be finally losses form it.